“Self-esteem is the ability to see yourself as a flawed individual and still hold yourself in high regard.” – Esther Perel You’re reactive. You really are. I know, ‘others’ are way more out-to-lunch when they’re upset and defensive, and they really need to get their act together (and wouldn’t they be significantly less annoying if they did?). But back … Read more
As a coach I’ve had a reoccurring interaction with managers that goes something like this: Them: “…of course, as a leader, I can’t afford to get too close to my direct-reports.” Me: “Really? Why not?” Them: “Well, I’m in the position to hire & fire and I don’t want our friendship to cloud my judgement. … Read more
You’re an executive, a founder, an entrepreneur of some stripe. You’ve heard of coaching and the people who do it. Maybe you even know someone who’s been on the receiving end of that kind of service. But that doesn’t mean you know why you would engage one, right? Need Vs Want Simply saying everyone needs … Read more
In the tradition of authentic-relating, a distinction is made between two broad categories of inauthenticity: posturing and collapsing. Collapsing is to implode under the experience of pressure, it’s to succumb, give in, cave. It’s inauthentic because no one is actually inferior to others and so to act that way is disingenuous. Unsurprisingly, as a pervasive … Read more
BACK IN THE EARLY 2000s, the great Steve Biddulph came to town and led a workshop on parenting that changed the way I look at conflict in relationships. I wasn’t even there, it was that transformative. My dear wife had the sense to attend and returned home with, amongst other things, a powerful standard … Read more
I HAVE WORKED WITH THOUSANDS OF HUMANS. That’s no exaggeration. Over the last 25+ years, I’ve helped folk leverage, solve, resolve, or just move on from every kind of challenge, dilemma, trauma, and conundrum you could imagine (and a great number of problems you haven’t yet heard of). Early in my career, I focused on … Read more
Let’s be clear. The upside of ambition is success. Plain and simple. Ambition is what gets us places. Sure, the term itself is also associated with social-climbing, ruthlessness, and the pursuit of fame, fortune, and status. But we all know that. Just as we know it isn’t only those motivations. … Read more
BEING STRESSED AT WORK, because of work, is such a massive source of pain in the lives of so many of us that it’s even come to the point where you’re reading posts such as this one… I know, a sure sign of desperate times. Feeling stretched at work is like being a parent at … Read more
