How We Feel About Ourselves Matters

As your official ExecutiveShrink it behooves me, on occasion, to go full touchy-feely (slathered in a sheep-dip of sanitizer, of course) and proffer advice on cultivating love, understanding, and all things utopian. So yesterday I sent this post out to my weekly email list as a contribution to us all having something more important to … Read more


You’re an executive, a founder, an entrepreneur of some stripe. You’ve heard of coaching and the people who do it. Maybe you even know someone who’s been on the receiving end of that kind of service. But that doesn’t mean you know why you would engage one, right? Need Vs Want Simply saying everyone needs … Read more

How Success REALLY Happens

I HAVE WORKED WITH THOUSANDS OF HUMANS. That’s no exaggeration. Over the last 25+ years, I’ve helped folk leverage, solve, resolve, or just move on from every kind of challenge, dilemma, trauma, and conundrum you could imagine (and a great number of problems you haven’t yet heard of). Early in my career, I focused on … Read more

The Dark Side Of Ambition Isn’t What You Think It Is

Let’s be clear. The upside of ambition is success. Plain and simple. Ambition is what gets us places.     Sure, the term itself is also associated with social-climbing, ruthlessness, and the pursuit of fame, fortune, and status.     But we all know that. Just as we know it isn’t only those motivations.     … Read more

Manage Your Intrusive Thoughts & Feelings

Although often ‘life’s a box of chocolates,’ sometimes it most assuredly ain’t. Metaphors of rollercoasters and rough-seas don’t come close to encompassing what some life-events do to us. Devastation comes in many forms, all bad, and while we undergo whatever trial Fate has in store for us and those we love, life, our life, must … Read more

What To Do When ‘Triggered’ At Work

“Sweet are the uses of adversity which like the toad ugly and venomous wears yet a precious jewel in his head.” As You Like It, William Shakespeare If you never feel upset at work—whether you show it or not—then you are either living in a utopia or bored out of your gourd. I doubt either … Read more

Work-Life-Balance Is A Crock—Do This Instead…

Work/life balance is horseshite. Either work is enlivening and life is productive, or we’re in the trap of working as a means to an end and living as a way of checking out. Look up ‘work-life balance’ online and you’ll get inundated with advice and admonishment. Or don’t. It won’t matter anyway. The whole enterprise … Read more

Leveraging Defensiveness—Why You Should And How To Do It

Defensiveness is one of the monsters under our collective beds. Worse yet, under the guise of so-called Ego (being egoic, ego-driven, etc), Defensiveness practically becomes the secular version of evil; “defensive” is not something you want to be accused of, it’s a character flaw.  Well, if that is the case, then we are all similarly … Read more